Category : FAB FRIDAY INBOXpiration/Blog

Your Dream Marriage

• elvirahopper
• March 6, 2020

So today I was asked to inspire those of you in a marriage…who are not exactly living your ‘Dream Marriage’.

I believe this state IS possible when we each do the inner work on ourselves and do not expect another to ‘complete us’.

I feel my beloved hubby (of 31 years this June) and l had to experience trials and tribulations for MOST of our marriage so we could eventually transform our relationship and serve others to do the same ♡

EGO is what kills most marriages in my humble opinion. When we forget who we TRULY are…ie: beautiful & divine beings here to share our gifts with with the world…and let EGO run the show…we can truly become CRAP MAGNETS.

Dare I say, when I lived out of alignment in my 2 ‘ROCKSTAR’ careers spanning 27 years…I was a freshly planted tree…and any ‘wind’ (bullies, mental issues, physical issues, addictions and marriage struggles) could ‘blow me away’…and DID.

I needed validation/approval of my worth from others…as I did not value myself.

When I shifted to a place of living in alignment with my heart and soul…as my Higher/True Self…NOT my EGO self…miracles big and small found ME daily ☆

Very humbly and honestly I share that there were years where we were not sure we would even make it.

What could have torn us apart actually brought us closer together.

We were blessed to use our ‘breakdowns’ to communicate vulnerably and deeply…which led to breakthroughs…miracles!

We are now solid oak trees. No ‘wind’ can ever blow us away ever again.

We studied at ‘The School of Hard Knocks’…and have each earned a PhD in our marriage’s personal transformation.

Do you operate as your Higher Self conciously and more frequently in your marriage…or do you live by default as your EGO self?

We do have both versions of ourselves inside of us. It’s up to us as to which one rules.

This reminds me of the Cherokee story of 2 wolves battling in each of us. The grandson asks the grandfather which one wins…and he answered:

“The one you feed most”.

Your EGO can easily ruin your marriage beautiful soul. Don’t let it..

BE your True/Higher Self…and live YOUR Dream Marriage!

At Your Service,

E

Get Out Of Your Own F’N Way…Your Miracle Life Awaits!

Your Motivators

• elvirahopper
• February 28, 2020

So the message that came through today is to consider destructive criticism as ‘Rocket Fuel’!

Kind heart-centred beautiful souls like us do easily struggle with ‘The disease to please’ ~ Oprah Winfrey.

We can easily give our power away for approval. If we become dependent on needing that outside approval in order to approve of ourselves…it can become a slippery slope.

Why? Because we believe that others know better than we do. We can easily fall into the trap of feeling devalued by those who doubt us…they do not see us. With them around us, we do not feel safe.

Quite frequently these people can even be our family or friends. Yikes!

Here’s what I invite you to consider.

Is what they think or say of you the TRUTH?

Is it possible that those who doubt you and just don’t want to see you succeed might actually inspire you to levels of greatness by simply NOT seeing you…and you are forced to uplevel your belief in yourself?

I’ve experienced instances of doubters and haters trying to bring me down and control in my life throughout my 57 years.

Little did they realize that they have pushed me to fully OWN my ‘next level’.

Today, doubters and haters may irk me…but I’m SO used to feeling good that anything stopping me from feeling good gets shifted on it’s head and goodness eventually comes out!

Sending anyone giving away their power to others SO MUCH LOVE…so you can actually be motivated by those who do NOT believe in you.

I believe in you!

At Your Service,

E

Challenge Yourself

• elvirahopper
• February 21, 2020

So the message that came through today was a reminder to courageously challenge yourself ☆

I believe you are like a tree. If you are not challenging yourself and growing… you are dying.

What do you feel needs to shift in your life right at this moment?

Can you be grateful for the situations and people who may be pushing your buttons…triggering you…as you may need growth in a particular area in your life to become an even better version of you?

Have you noticed a pattern showing up over and over in your life? Anger? Victimhood/blame? Depression? Anxiety?

Could you possibly have a blindspot that you clearly cannot see (duh…they call it a blindspot for a reason…lol) but everyone else does and perhaps they do not have the courage to tell you?

This is one of the reasons people hire coaches. The coach helps them see themselves clearly by reflecting back what they notice. Then the client can decide to make a change or not.

Coaching works because it is easier to have a caring yet kickass person not emotionally invested in you (like family or friends) stand shoulder to shoulder with you while you challenge yourself to change (grow) in areas of your choosing.

Again…if you could change ONE thing in your life…that you know will improve it…what would IT be?

I challenge you to challenge yourself. Do hit ‘Reply’ if you wish to be witnessed by me…and possibly receive any golden nuggets I can share to support you!

At Your Service,

E

Do What You Love

• elvirahopper
• February 7, 2020

Happy FAB FRIDAY beauty!

So today’s message is a friendly reminder that doing what you love, MATTERS!

Why does it matter?

Because things that make you happy are NOT random.

They are clues into who you TRULY are.

Many of us twisted ourselves into strange inauthentic shapes to make those around us more comfortable.

We may have squelched our passions and desires to the point where we don’t even realize that they are still there.

Who were you before they told you who you HAD to be?

Who did you become to make others more comfortable?

My tribe (kind and heart-centred beautiful souls) have people pleased a time or 22…and many have given their power away to be loved.

Many have pretended to NOT love something they truly love.

I was told that I could NOT be a singer and dancer as an 11 year old because they were NOT ‘nice women’ (my father used a stronger descriptive term).

I had to pretend I did not care about singing, dancing and making people smile…but I truly LOVED it ♡

I’m blessed to say that I broke free of my family’s self-limiting belief system (my dad & his sister were world class vocalists but kept small and safe…and both died with their REAL music still in them).

I believe that their lack of FULL self expression was the reason both struggled with mental illness and both were on anti-anxiety meds when they died.

I’ve noted time and time again that denying and not connecting to that which you LOVE and makes you feel truly ALIVE has a cost.

Mental and physical health issues can emerge as a result of NOT living YOUR TRUTH…doing what you TRULY LOVE.

I simply walked-my-talk became a professional jazz artist at 51 when I got very real and took my love for singing and entertaining seriously. I’ve performed & recorded on worldclass jazz stages with Juno award winning artists.

I’m now honoured to be a sacred sound healer and even help the dying to die with more peace and dignity. I serve their grieving family members too ♡

OK…so if YOU were to die one year from today…what would you choose to reconnect with and DO…to make you feel like you did not die with your REAL music still in you?

Would you pick up that guitar again? Would you take some voice lessons? Would you take a painting class? Would you learn to tap dance?

Please…for the sake of your mental, physical and relational health and happiness you have a duty to DO WHAT YOU LOVE ☆

Oh yeah…when you do, you inspire the world to do what THEY LOVE too!

Care to share what you love? Hit Reply!

At Your Service,

E